Divorce shatters a child's sense of safety. During and after the divorce it is vitally important to keep routines and and lifestyle the same as long as humanly possible. Make a commitment to live in the same house and maintain the same working or at home status as your children adjust to the divorce.
As a newly single parent it is easy to let things slide beacause you are grieving and exhausted. However such choices add to your child's insecuritites. Keep daily routines of meals, activities and bedtimes the same. Your household rules should remain consistent. Structure helps make both children and adults feel more secure in painful situations.
Regardless of the circumstances, your children didn't choose this divorce and thus often feel helpless and out of control. Look for opportunities where their input can positively impact the family. Allowing them to choose dinner, which movie to rent or what outfit to wear will help strenghten their personal power.
Most importantly trust you will all be fine and love them and yourself unconditionally.
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